When it comes to wedding planning, it's no secret that most of it is geared towards the bride. The broad generalization (whether it's true or not) is that the female is the Creative, who has been planning the wedding since she was little, and is the most capable person. Everything involved with the wedding is making these childhood dreams come true, and the guy is just a lucky participant in this occasion. In fact, it seems to be a rule of the universe that most conversations about wedding planning include a passive comment like "It's her day, after all!" It might be the gentleman passing the responsibility of choice to his future wife, or it might be used by an in-law or friend to override an unpopular decision, but Britney and I cringe whenever we hear this phrase.
It gets to be rather demoralizing for a male and helps feed this notion of "her day." Just in the process of our own wedding, I've had these circumstances occur:
Filling out a form for a wedding expo which asked explicitly for "Bride's Name" but not mine.
Getting a call from a vendor asking to speak to Britney even though I gave my name and number on the contact list.
Having my name spelled completely wrong on a form with a potential vendor (they spelled Britney's name correctly).
Being generally ignored in conversation while vendors make direct eye contact with Britney.
Britney and I worked hard...